If you responded with “often” or “very often” for all or any of the questions, there’s a likelihood that your partner uses controlling behavior. Although this can feel disheartening, at the same time, recognize that knowing more can help you. If you responded “sometimes,” it might be in your best interest to explore controlling behaviors further to see what they are and how they adversely affect you—even a little. My website has information including Resources you might find helpful as well as my book, Women with Controlling Partners: Taking Back Your Life from a Manipulative or Abusive Partner. Eye-opening, supportive, comforting, educational. Hearing people’s stories helped me to relate and not feel so alone or ashamed. I especially enjoyed the check-ins, giving and getting information, support and guidance. Carol—you are a very compassionate therapist!