Harvey Weinstein, Charlie Rose, Matt Lauer, Bill Cosby, and numerous others. From entertainment moguls to news anchors and politicians, men from all walks of life are being called out for their abuse and victimization of women.
For many women, abuse—sometimes sexual in nature, and sometimes not—begins subtly yet insidiously, and this is the beginning of a destructive, controlling relationship. The abuser’s need for control is often slow and difficult to spot at the onset, but the hidden injuries resulting from this abuse are meant to keep the victim off-balance and in a subservient position.
It happens with the boss who takes advantage of his ability to hire and fire by making it clear to a woman he has his eye on her—that she is expected to reciprocate his advances. It happens when the boyfriend manipulates his girlfriend into believing that her opinions don’t count anymore. And it happens when the husband threatens to divorce his wife if she doesn’t kowtow to his demands, painting a frightening picture of her being alone and in hardship without him.
Abuse, harassment, manipulation, and victimization know no boundaries, and these unwanted acts take place both at home and in the workplace. Symptoms of abuse can include:
• A sense of eroded well-being
• Diminished self-confidence
• Feelings of shame
• Loss of trust in one’s own judgment
• Stress, anxiety, or depression
With over three decades of experience as a psychotherapist and intimate partner abuse expert, Carol A. Lambert, MSW has worked with over 1000 women who have suffered at the hands of controlling partners. In Abusive Relationships: Abusive Men she will show you:
• How to recognize the signs of abuse
• How to protect yourself
• Strategies for avoiding manipulation and coercion
• How to begin the healing process when necessary
You will discover how to identify your feelings, pinpoint the controlling, abusive behaviors of the potential perpetrator, and then address the issue in a way that will protect you from further harm. Ultimately, this guide will put you on the path toward recovery, empowerment, and freedom.
No longer do you need to feel helpless, confused, or doubtful about what you feel. Instead, Carol will gently guide you toward an actionable set of strategies that will not only prevent you from vulnerability and abuse but will also build the strength that will help you act in your own best interest in all situations.
A controlling or abusive partner can break even the strongest person—unless you know what to look for. Written by an expert in intimate partner abuse and based on her highly successful recovery program for women with controlling partners, this book will give you the strength, courage, and strategies you need to acknowledge the problem and stand up for yourself once and for all—whether you stay or leave the relationship.
If you have a controlling partner, you aren’t alone. Millions of women suffer psychological abuse at the hands of a spouse or intimate partner during some point in their lives, not fully seeing or knowing what is happening to them. Research shows that psychological abuse affects women’s overall well-being more than physical abuse, is a bigger contributor to inducing fear, and can be a precursor to violence. To make matters worse, having a controlling partner often results in hidden injuries like anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, trauma, and low self-efficacy—feeling like you can’t make a difference in your life. So, where can you turn for help?
Based on over a decade of clinical and domestic abuse research, Women with Controlling Partners will help you identify the coercive constraints that can be predictive of intimate partner abuse, recognize the harmful effects of psychological abuse on your mental and physical health, and gain the personal strength and power to break free. Using the author’s three-stage recovery model, you’ll be empowered to move out of denial, deconstruct what holds you psychologically captive, and take back your life.
Abuse can be devastating, and having a controlling partner can make you feel crazy—and as if you’re the one responsible. But you’re not crazy, and you’re not to blame! With this important, one-of-a-kind recovery process, you’ll finally find the clarity of mind, courage, and strength to protect yourself from the hurtful control that damages your mental and physical health, and move toward a safer and happier life.