The narcissist’s behavior meets the criteria for narcissistic abuse.
When we look at the behavior of the narcissist in the context of an intimate relationship, we see the devastating effect, an effect often unbeknownst to both of them. The narcissist, by nature, behaves in ways that meet the criteria for emotional and psychological abuse: a behavior sometimes labeled narcissistic abuse. To recover from the mistreatment of a narcissist, a partner needs to heal. That process begins with recognizing hurtful behaviors and identifying the injuries they cause to those they proclaim to love.
Narcissists are often described as self-absorbed and preoccupied with their own feelings and interests. They expect others to glorify them with positive attention. They feel entitled to have things their way and they believe they are superior and all-knowing. They lack empathy for others and they decline to take responsibility for their behavior.
Use of Deception
Across the board, clients who have narcissistic partners feel they have been duped after time spent in a relationship. The original presentation of the person they have fallen for does not hold up. In fact, the majority claim that once they have reached a commitment of either living together or marriage, their “loving partner” changes. What they start to experience is tension and conflict, as their partner asserts the need to have things their way, and over time shows less interest and care in their thoughts and feelings unless it serves them.
The following traits powerfully influence the narcissist’s interactions with their intimate partner who, in time, experiences a decline in their emotional well-being.